Secret life of a Mom's emotions

For what ever reason TV has been a bit emoitonal for me lately. Especially Oprah's Big Give and The Secret Life of a Soccer Mom. The Big Give was touching and the Soccer Mom was confusing. ABC and TLC. I think the Big Give was supposed to make you cry but Soccer Mom really made me confused. I was happy for the stay at home mom to get a chance at a career she had given up, but when she had to choose between her new career and her old stay at home life, I was bothered. I know too many moms who would give anything to be at home, and I get to be at home. I have always thought it to be a luxury, even with my cercumstances of being by myself for 24 hr + shifts. I guess there is a part of all moms who want more for themselves. But if you don't have too work, finacialy would you really trade being away from your kids? I guess this is why they make these shows, to make us think. I think that we as moms would always choose a better life for our children even if it means sacrafices such as working for insurance, or homes, or us giving up a career to be there to raise our children we always choose our children first, right? This is why we become moms, to raise children and give them the best lives we posibly can. To stay sane we have hobbies and take time for ourselves when we can, as stay at home moms. When we work, we ask our spouses to give what they can and we pioritze what really maters in our day. My question is how do we find that that line of balance for better mom life = better kids life and how do we strike balance?